After more than fifty years in ministry, I've made just about every leadership mistake in the book. Some of them twice. And if there's one thing I've learned, it's this: the best leaders aren't the ones who never fail: they're the ones who learn from their failures and keep walking in grace.

Ministry leadership training wasn't a thing when I started out. You learned by doing. By falling flat on your face. By watching godly men and women model servant leadership and hoping some of it rubbed off on you.

Today, I want to share seven common mistakes I see in church leadership: mistakes I've made myself: and the biblical solutions that turned things around. Whether you're a seasoned pastor or just stepping into Christian leadership development, these truths can save you years of heartache.

Mistake #1: Trying to Do It All Alone

This is the classic trap. You feel the weight of the ministry on your shoulders, and you convince yourself that if you don't do it, it won't get done right.

Sound familiar?

Moses felt the same way until his father-in-law Jethro pulled him aside and said, "The thing that thou doest is not good. Thou wilt surely wear away, both thou, and this people that is with thee: for this thing is too heavy for thee; thou art not able to perform it thyself alone" (Exodus 18:17-18, KJV).

The Fix: Delegate. Disciple. Trust others. Leadership in the church isn't a solo act: it's a team sport. God never designed you to carry the load alone. Find faithful people, invest in them, and release them to serve.

Mistake #2: Neglecting Your Own Prayer Life

Here's a hard truth: you can be so busy doing things for God that you forget to spend time with God.

Ministry becomes mechanical. Sermons become performances. And before you know it, you're running on fumes.

Jesus modeled something different. Even with crowds pressing in and demands pulling at Him from every direction, He withdrew. "And he withdrew himself into the wilderness, and prayed" (Luke 5:16, KJV).

The Fix: Protect your prayer time like your life depends on it: because it does. Your ministry will never rise above your intimacy with the Father. Schedule it. Guard it. And don't feel guilty about it.

Mistake #3: Leading from Performance Instead of Reliance

This one sneaks up on you. You start relying on your gifts, your experience, your charisma: and somewhere along the way, you stop depending on the Holy Spirit.

The Apostle Paul knew better. He wrote, "Not that we are sufficient of ourselves to think any thing as of ourselves; but our sufficiency is of God" (2 Corinthians 3:5, KJV).

The Fix: Every morning, surrender your agenda. Ask God what He wants to do through you today. Christian leadership development isn't about becoming more impressive: it's about becoming more dependent.

Mistake #4: Losing the Heart of a Servant

Leadership in the church was never meant to look like the world's version of power. But sometimes, we forget that.

We start caring more about titles than towels. More about platforms than people.

Jesus flipped the script entirely: "But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant" (Matthew 23:11, KJV).

The Fix: Ask yourself regularly: Am I serving, or am I being served? The greatest leaders I've ever known were the ones who showed up early, stayed late, and weren't above cleaning the bathrooms. That's the heart of a shepherd.

Mistake #5: Moving Too Fast Through Change

I get it. You have vision. You see where the church needs to go. And you want to get there yesterday.

But people aren't microwaves. They're crockpots. And if you run over them in your rush to implement change, you'll lose them: and the change will never stick.

The Fix: Communicate the why before the what. Give people time to catch the vision. Walk with them through the transition instead of dragging them through it. Sustainable ministry leadership means honoring people's capacity to grow.

Mistake #6: Operating in Secrecy

Secret meetings breed suspicion. Closed-door decisions create division. And before long, your congregation doesn't trust you: even if your intentions are good.

"But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another..." (1 John 1:7, KJV).

The Fix: Transparency builds trust. You don't have to share every detail, but you do need to communicate clearly and consistently. Let people know what's happening and why. The light is always safer than the shadows.

Mistake #7: Forgetting That Mercy Leads

This is the big one. The one that ties everything else together.

When you lead from fear, guilt, or performance pressure, you crush the people you're trying to serve. But when you lead from mercy: when you remember how much grace God has shown you: everything changes.

"It is of the Lord's mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is thy faithfulness" (Lamentations 3:22-23, KJV).

The Fix: Lead the way you've been led: with patience, with kindness, with relentless grace. Your people don't need a perfect leader. They need one who points them to a perfect Savior.

A Resource for Leading Through Grace

If this message resonates with you, I want to recommend a book close to my heart: Pain to Praise

It's a reflection on how God's mercy has chased me through every season of ministry: the victories and the failures, the highs and the lows. I wrote it because I believe the greatest gift you can give your church is a leader who truly understands grace.

When you lead from mercy, your people can breathe. They feel safe. They grow. And that's the kind of ministry leadership training no classroom can teach.

Keep Growing

Friend, if you're hungry for more Christ-centered encouragement for your ministry journey, I'd love to have you explore the full library of resources over at the W. Austin Gardner blog. There's something there for every season of leadership.

You're not alone in this. And you don't have to figure it out by yourself.

Keep walking. Keep learning. Keep leaning into grace.

: W. Austin Gardner

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