The Unselfish Constancy of True Friendship

Austin Gardner • March 21, 2024

My dear friends, let's delve into the unique beauty of friendship—a relationship that can truly embody selflessness. In the intricate dance of life, we see the child needing the parent, and in later years, the parent needing the child. The husband leans on the wife, and reciprocally, the wife leans on the husband. Yet, even in these sacred relationships, a righteous selfishness is present.



However, when we choose to be friends, a remarkable shift occurs. I chose to be your friend not for what I could gain, but for what I could give. It's a commitment to unselfishly help, love, and care for you without expecting the same in return. In the realm of friendship, I ask for nothing; instead, I am willing to give everything. This choice creates a space where the essence of true friendship can flourish—a relationship grounded in selfless giving.


Furthermore, consider the enduring constancy of friendship. In a world where roles and needs evolve, friendships remain steadfast. Children grow and leave home, parents age and pass away, and siblings may move away. Yet, in the realm of friendship, this dynamic need not change. Unlike many other relationships, where the needs may shift with the passage of time, true friendship remains a steady anchor.


The friend relationship is a realm where one can spend years becoming an expert and still have time to use what has been learned. It is an enduring connection that withstands the test of time, providing a consistent and reliable source of support and companionship.


May we cherish the unselfishness and constancy of true friendship, embracing the rare and enduring beauty it brings to our lives.


Thank you. God bless you.


Your friends,


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